Cannot decide whether to stay or leave your job? First, see where you are stuck
You have thought about resigning and carefully compared the reasons to stay or leave. Each time you seem close to a decision, a new worry appears: “What if the next job is worse?” “Would leaving mean all my effort here was wasted?” People around you offer different advice, and the more you hear, the harder it becomes to know what you want.
This does not necessarily mean you lack decisiveness. A job decision can involve income, growth, relationships, self-worth and everyday arrangements at the same time. When these become tangled, even a long pros-and-cons list may leave you going in circles.
Your hesitation may contain different questions
Research on career decision-making distinguishes different sources of difficulty, including missing information and conflicts between what you know and what you hope for. These call for different responses. If you do not know what the new role involves, you need to find out more. If the opportunity seems good but you fear disappointing your family, it may help to explore what the choice means to you. Gati and colleagues’ work offers this distinction.
A job is more than a position. It may affect how you see yourself, what you contribute to your family, and how much change you can manage. The American Psychological Association’s guidelines on work and career encourage attention to personal experience alongside economic and social circumstances.
Behind “Should I resign?” there may be more specific questions. Is it the work itself or my current team that I want to leave? Am I looking for a better opportunity, or relief from having to prove myself? If I stay for now, what would need to change?
How might OH Cards help?
Salary, commuting and prospects are relatively easy to list. Other feelings rarely fit into a table. You may say you are only worried about risk, then realise you also fear being seen as a failure if you leave. Or you may believe you want to change industries when your more urgent need is to leave a relationship at work in which you feel persistently dismissed.
OH Cards can offer an opening for feelings that are not yet clear. An image may bring an overlooked hope, concern or contradiction into view. The value is not a decision supplied by the card. It is being able to say more clearly which risks are real, which worries are personal, and which facts you still need.
I have worked with questions about job choices, and I bring an interest in workplace relationships and organisational settings to these conversations. Together we can turn “Should I go?” into questions we can actually examine. One session may make the choice clearer, but it cannot promise an immediate decision.
You do not have to decide before coming to talk
If you have compared your options and asked others repeatedly, yet still feel pulled in different directions, you can bring the options as they are. You might simply say, “I’m thinking of changing jobs, but I don’t know why I cannot decide.”
We can look at what you most want to change, what is hardest to leave behind, and which practical information is still missing. A useful outcome might be a decision—or knowing what you need to check next. When everything is no longer packed into “stay or go,” you may have more room to make a choice that is yours.